Your power.
Where is it now… or where has it gone?
Are you currently in your power and IN your body? If not, let me help you reclaim it.
First, let me take you back to New Year’s day when I declared that love was my theme for 2017.
On the path to love, I’ve experienced something deeper and greater than I could have imagined: 2017 has become the year that I take my power back by CHOOSING ME.
Choosing me means that I don’t exclude myself from any transaction, relationship or experience. I am operating from my power; sharing my voice and putting myself first.
What I’ve learned is that the ultimate act of love (and self-love) is to choose for yourself and to lead yourself into the world with grace and to embody your potency.
Choosing me, leading myself to my joy and defining success and leadership on my own terms (i.e. “breaking bad”) has positively affected EVERY single area of my life this year but not before things got pretty ugly.
Let me explain….
#1: Breaking the shackles of co-dependency.
Earlier this year, I dismantled a lifetime dynamic of co-dependency with my mother that kept me doubting myself and undermining my inner knowing.
Confronting my greatest fear of losing her, if I broke that dynamic, created enormous freedom. While our relationship is still in a transitional phase, I have my voice, my freedom and my power back.
Benefit: I get to trust myself fully and not give my power of decision to someone I think knows better than me. Nobody knows best than you do.
Question for you: Is there a dynamic or relationship you are feeding currently that is undermining your inner knowing? If so, what step can you take to choose you in that scenario?
#2: Embracing embodiment amidst fear of inadequacy and of being seen as a “fraud”.
Choosing me also meant the willingness to bring into the world an incredible body of work that I have yet to fully understand.
This work on soul leadership is all about leading yourself and being the embodiment of the person you truly want to be in the world.
It’s about leading yourself to success that you define without excluding you, your magic or your power from any experience.
What I have found is that this form of leadership involves unlearning a lot of old beliefs, paradigms and dynamics that I had bought into.
Today I recognized where the overwhelm with the body of work, had led me to give my power away to it rather than fully acknowledging my potency and letting that chart my course of creation.
Benefit: I was reminded that “I AM the power” and that my power resides within me (always) and never outside me. That I AM the magic, not my work. The work is simply a tool for the magic to be shared with the world.
Question for you: Where have you dimmed down your potency and how can you start reclaiming it?
#3: Speaking up
Choosing me meant being willing to receive retaliation – my greatest fear from speaking my truth. It’s happened in my personal and professional relationships. I’ve been called selfish by my partner, unprofessional by others and had initially unpleasant consequences come as a result.
And I knew that speaking up and choosing what was in greatest alignment for me would create enormous freedom, expansion and new possibilities. And it has.
Benefit: I am living my truth and choosing what I feel is right for me vs. doing what others expect from me. I trust my awareness and I am willing to receive the judgment that comes from my choices.
Question for you: Where can speak up and share your truth and trust that you know what’s best for you, while remaining detached from the outcome?
The benefits of reclaiming my potency happened AFTER the darkness, discomfort and messiness of unraveling and dismantling old paradigms that had kept me held hostage.
The paradigm shifts created entire new dynamics:
I went from co-dependent to independent.
People pleasing to outspoken, bold and controversial
I went from operating from a priority of fearing judgment to welcoming it.
I went from feeling the need to keep the peace to make others happy to putting my priorities and my happiness at the top of my list and making more money as a result.
Each choice meant facing a core paralyzing fear of being abandoned, being spoken badly of, retaliated upon, being willing to be seen as a “bad person” and having other people bad mouth me.
Some of them happened, others to a lesser degree.
The greatest gift was my sense of personal freedom: choosing me.
If you desire to experience more of your power, here are some steps to consider:
- Be WILLING to choose you and to make it a priority in your life
- Be WILLING to dance with the fears and the potential judgment that will come your way. Willingness is the first step to creating lasting change.
- Stay detached from any outcomes and fiercely devoted to YOU and what you desire. Never divorce yourself for anyone or anything.
- Stay curious and ask empowering questions such as: What else is possible? How does it get any better than this? What will create more here? What energy, space and consciousness can I be to be the fullness of my magic, I truly be today?
Ultimately living in my power has come down to being willing to CHOOSING ME FIRST.
If you’re thinking this is selfish or that it makes you a “bad person” it doesn’t. It is, in fact, the most loving, kind, courageous and empowering and freeing choice there is.
I also acknowledged with crystal clarity that if we aren’t getting the level of results that we desire in any area of our life, chances are that we need to re-examine our priorities.
And when I kept asking what would create more of that for me I kept getting the answer to BE ME.
In my body of work, leadership is defined as contribution.
To me truthfully, leadership simply means being me = being a contribution to me.
It means that every choice I make includes me.
It means that I speak up, I don’t dumb myself down, minimize my energy or apologize for being me or for what I want.
It’s not for sissies.
Here’s what I know to be true:
Choosing you can be an unpopular and inconvenient choice.
And choose you, anyway and always.
It’s the ultimate freedom ride you will experience.
We don’t yet live in a society that celebrates us fully living in our potency and making ourselves a priority and that doesn’t have to stop you from being 100% YOU.
The path to having everything you desire for yourself and the world starts with you choosing you every 10 seconds. Not because it is another “to do” item but because it creates so much more space for creation, expansion, joy and freedom.
So truth: Are you willing to make you and your joy a true priority in your life?
Chances are that if there have been some things in your life that don’t feel aligned, you may be choosing something you think is you, but isn’t.
Truth: Have you been choosing for you or for what you think is expected of you?
What if you said F**k you to everyone and everything and focused on yourself? You can call it selfish. I call it leadership.
Leadership is always an inside job.
Ultimate leadership + ultimate freedom = choosing you always.
What can you create from this expansive space of you?
By playing with the energies of what I truly want to receive, by being willing to be more of me (especially those parts of me that I am scared will be judged) and choosing more possibilities than limitations, I have created so much more space for myself.
The true freedom has come from being back in my body, living from my potency and relying on ME.
So many times, it’s tempting as heck to look outside of ourselves for the answers and to relinquish responsibility to others.
And yet, true freedom comes from trusting yourself.
From knowing that you are willing and open to choosing whatever is required to honour you vs an agenda that’s being imposed upon you and that isn’t even yours.
So go ahead and….
Be true to you.
Be willing to receive the judgment.
Be willing to lean into the awkwardness.
Be willing to say what you mean, when you mean it.
Be willing to apologize when it feels appropriate to you – and not a moment before.
Be willing to be loud, bold, controversial and independent.
Be willing to be FREE and ALL of you (hello self-expression).
I’d love to help you to experience more JOY, FREEDOM and EASE.
Yes, you may want the money too, but you are longing to FEEL something different, right?
To be at ease in your body. To feel your potency. To speak your truth more boldly.
To feel unstoppable. To have unshakeable faith and confidence on your path to greater impact and leadership.
And while I know that fear is always nearby, trusting yourself opens up the gateway to endless possibilities in miraculous ways.
All you have to do is to be WILLING to choose you even if you don’t know what that looks like or how it will turn out.
I promise you that it will blow your socks off in the best possible way.
If you are ready to find your voice in your business, be more of you and feel more FREE, and to “break bad”, I’d love to hop on the phone with you.
The 30 minute clarity call is for women business owners who:
- Have been in business for at least 1-2 years and are making money already
- Are ready to create deeper alignment in their business model, offerings and how they show up in the world and step into their next level of leadership
- Be more self-expressed, bold and potent in their message
If this sounds like you: Click here to book a 30 minute clarity call with me.
We will talk about your biggest dreams, what’s been getting in the way and if I can help you move forward, what that will look like.
Choosing you and embracing your potency is the ultimate state of freedom. What will you choose?
To your sweet success,
P.S.: Here’s a photo of the solar eclipse my fiancé took during our road trip to Oregon. It reminds me of the perfection of our wholeness and that embracing both our shadow and our light is what creates ultimate freedom.
